The Cost of Pretending You’re Fine

When was the last time you asked someone if they were ok, and you got back “I’m fine”?

On hearing those words, you knew that “I’m fine” was the last thing they were.

What about you?

Ever caught yourself saying those words or similar?

My bet is we’ve all been on both sides of that conversation.

The reason I raise this is that one of the most common patterns I see of people who are both successful AND fulfilled is that they work hard to create Alignment with those around them,

"We're Amazing" vs "You're Amazing" - What the feedback tells you.

A pattern I see time and again working with world-class leaders all over the world.

It’s that the teams they are a part of work hard to create powerful leadership experiences that aren’t about individual brilliance. They’re about the impact of the whole.

At a slew of recent events focused on senior leadership teams, the feedback that really stood out hasn’t been about any one person or speaker . It’s been about the experience as a whole. The sense of shared clarity, of feeling a part of something much bigger.

“Gen Z are lazy. Boomers had it easy.”

Drives me mad when I hear language like this.

It’s lazy cliched thinking which happens all too often at work, around the dinner table and down the pub.

Worse, I think it does real damage to our culture as a society.

Don’t take my word for it. Last month, Intergenerational England published a report titled, A Divided Kingdom. To quote:

"The UK is facing a stark level of age segregation.…

The Missing Jigsaw Piece

Jigsaws. Remember them?

Used to be standard fare for birthday gifts for kids? Maybe you like us do one at Christmas?

Ever remember that feeling when you’re a good way into solving one and you get that stuck feeling.

You keep looking at the same pieces and you can’t see what ‘s missing.

You start to wonder if you’ve lost piece and whether you can all the way to the end.

That feeling!

I think that’s a bit like going after our big bold goals

Reclaiming Depth and Meaning in an Age of Bots and Soundbites

Two things have been on my mind this week.

They both revolve around how we as humans have better conversations with each other.

I don’t think there’s anything more important right now as perhaps, you, like me see a rapid cultural decay in how we either build or destroy relationships.

The good news is we all have a choice and can exert control in our own worlds.

Is It Time for a Bolder Conversation?

What if the one thing standing between you and your biggest goal isn’t skill, resources, or intelligence, but a conversation you haven’t had yet?

The truth is, most breakthroughs, whether in business, leadership, or life don’t happen because someone suddenly has more talent. They happen because someone steps up and has the conversation that truly matters.

The Conversations We Avoid